Over on the birth/first parents blog there was a recent post by Maja, called “Sinners or Saints?”

In this post Maja talks about how birth parents are often depicted as either sinners or saints for their decisions and the fact that they made an adoption plan for their child.

I have to say that when I was reading this it made me think that it is often the same for us adoptive parents! I get very tired of both strains of thinking, to be perfectly honest.

I cannot count the times... more

I found a sheet of paper with these "Foundations of Truth" on them when I was going through my paperwork last night. I found it mixed in with all of my Vietnam adoption paperwork, which is from way back in 2001-2002, and I am sad to say I do not remember where it is from. I apologize in advance I can't give credit to the author. This all rings so true to me that I have to share it with you.

1. Adoption is the way our child(ren) came to our family. It is not second best or second choice by comparison to joining our family by birth. It is simply different. Adoption is a fact of process and in no way implies that the belonging, the love, the joy or the importance of our child by adoption... more