We all know that when it comes to adoption, “the wait” is one of the most difficult aspects of the process. However, “the wait” does provide a good opportunity for adoptive parents to prepare themselves for the adoption, for parenting an adopted child and for becoming a transracial family.

I know a lot of adoptive parents that buy the books and then sit them on a shelf and plan to read them once their child is home. Well, I am here to tell you that chances are, you... more

I said I was going to write about the blessings and the “good things” about transracial adoption, and I was planning on it and looking forward to it, but today there is another topic that I feel I should not skip over, and need to write about today.

I was not going to write about the horrible tragedy that occurred at Virginia Tech, because while it was a terrible national tragedy, it was not really relevant to transracial adoption in any way that I could see at first.

However, over the past few days, as the media has attacked this story from every angle and the stories, pictures and video are everywhere you turn, the coverage has started to have a negative effect on some transracial... more

In my last two posts I have written about fears that some adoptive parents have about their adoption travel, and then gave some tips on making your adoption trip less intimidating.

In this post, I am going to give suggestions to make it easier to leave children at home while you travel for your adoption.

-Try to keep things in perspective. Your children at home... more

Today I am discussing the adoption roadblock of travel worries and fears, and in this post I am going to give you some tips to help ease your anxiety about your adoption trip and offer ways to make it smoother and easier, and in my next post, I will write about tips to make is as painless as possible to leave children at home while you travel.

Tips for smoother adoption travel (and ways to calm your fears)…

-When you are early on in the adoption stage and still... more

Every time I think I have this category just about wrapped up, I think of another “adoption roadblock”. When I first started this I didn’t realize just how many reasons there are out there for people NOT to adopt. Hopefully by discussing them, sharing my experiences and providing additional resources, some people will feel inspired to move forward with their adoption plans.

Following this series of posts on travel, I plan on addressing ethical concerns related to adoption, and then some of the “irrational fear” that can creep on you. If you have... more

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I think that this movie is a great opportunity for adoption related discussion between parents and chidlren. I am sure there will be critics, but I really did think it was handled well (from an adoptive parent point of things). Since there is no "happy reunion with the birth mother", I wonder if birth mothers will be upset with how that ended...Jenna, Jan…if you are reading, I’d love to know your thoughts on the movie.... more

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Lewis starts to wonder and think about his birth mother a lot… dreams she is out there looking for him, is his perfect mother, etc. and decides he has to find her. We know that “fantasizing” birth parents is VERY common for kids who do not know anything about their birth parents, so again, I thought this was handled realistically.

Lewis decides that since he has seen his birth mother when he was a baby, the key to finding... more

Yesterday we took our family to see “Meet the Robinsons”, the new Disney movie (released yesterday) based on the book “A Day with Wilbur Robinson” by William Joyce. Although I had seen eight million commercials for the movie before we went to see it, I had somehow missed the part about it having such a huge, central adoption theme.

While it is not a movie about transracial adoption, it has issues that are central to any adoptive family.

Here is my review of the movie as an adoptive parent (and warning… I will be giving away big parts... more

Here is an awesome article from the New York Times for Love Thursday...

It is called "I Have Taken on My Daughter's Hair and Won", and is written by Randal C. Archibald, a black man and father who discusses his attempts and success with doing his daughter's hair, and the reactions he gets from his wife and other people in his life.

He talks about how black women give him oodles of praise and attention for being a black man that can "do hair". Here is a fun quote...

As Lyla and I depart, the receptionist at the counter coos.

“Who did your hair, sweetie,” she asks,... more

I promise I will get up the “A Day in the Life of Me” posts…I have been working on them, but they take forever to type up and we had a busy weekend. But I will get them up asap, because I get more requests for those posts than any other…

But I wanted to quickly share this awesome article about U.S. swim team rising star Cullen Jones.

Jones is not just incredibly talented in the pool, a member of the world-record setting 400 meter freestyle relay team, a favorite to win a gold medal in the Olympics next year and an athlete with a $2 million Nike contract…he is also black.

In many... more