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10/01/07

Adoption and Dreams

Posted by : Erin H in Transracial/Transcultural Adoption Blog at 03:42 pm , 546 words, 154 views  
Categories: The Wait


When people are going through times of change in their lives, or times of stress or times of excitement, (or a combination of all three) it is common for them to have very vivid dreams. Pregnant women and people who are about to get married often find themselves having all sorts of dreams interrupting their slumber.

I have never been a big dreamer. I don't know if it is because I am too tired, too deep of a sleeper or what, but I have never even been able to remember any of my dreams, with the exception of two recurring nightmares I had as a child (one involving Woody Woodpecker and one involving a gorilla... I have no idea what that means!)

However during some of our adoptions, I have found myself having vivid dreams. With Maggie, our first adoption, I had a lot of nightmares. I didn't usually remember them, but I woke up in the morning or the middle of the night upset. I was really stressed throughout the adoption process, and I am sure that is why I was having bad dreams.

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I dreamed about Belane a lot during her adoption process, however they were always "weird" dreams. They weren't scary or bad, they were just the kind of dreams where nothing makes sense. The kind of dreams you wake up saying, "Why was the neighbor's cat talking?" or "Why was my third grade teacher in the refrigerator?", and Belane just happened to be in these weird dreams.

But for the past few weeks I have been having very vivid dreams about Solomon. They are different dreams for me because for one, I am remembering them, and for two, they are very realistic. I wake up in the morning and at first I don't even realize that I am remembering a dream, because it all seems so real it feels like it really happened.

And they are nothing overly exciting. In one dream I was carrying him around my kitchen, and pointing out things and telling him the names of things. He was laughing at his pictures hanging on our fridge. The other kids were running in and out of the room. It was just a regular old "mom" moment. That is how they all have been.

However when I wake up, I really feel like I was just with Solomon. I can feel him in my arms, I can see his sweet face, I can hear his voice and his laugh, and I have a warm fuzzy feeling when I think about him. In one of my dreams he was just sleeping with his head on my chest and he was sucking on one of his fingers while I rubbed his head and back. When I woke up, it took me a minute to realize he wasn't really there. It makes me wonder if he really sucks on a finger or two while he sleeps.

I love these dreams.

And I know that it sounds really silly, but a tiny part of me hopes that he is dreaming about a lady he doesn't know yet, who carries him everywhere, rubs his soft head and kisses him way too often.

Do you have adoption dreams?? Leave a comment and tell me about it. :)

Comments, Pingbacks:

Comment from: Deb Donatti [Member] Email · http://open.adoptionblogs.com
Erin, That is beautiful! I really do believe that souls connect across the miles when those souls are longing to be together. Sounds like one of those situations. While I do not always recall my dreams either, I have experienced what you are speaking of myself before.
Nothing "silly" at all.
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Comment from: BethPie [Member] Email
In three weeks, I'll be traveling to meet our son in Haiti (not to bring him home yet, sadly). So the dreams of rushing to the airport and forgetting vital pieces of luggage & paperwork have already started! They're mostly frustrating and I wake up feeling like I've gotten little very little rest.

One year before we began our adoption, I had a very vivid dream about the son we would adopt. His name in my dream is the American name we've given him. I didn't know it at the time, but the meaning is quite significant & fitting considering his life before coming to the orphanage. :o)
PermalinkPermalink 10/01/07 @ 17:39
Comment from: JR [Member] Email
I dreamed about T twice before I travelled - in one I was carrying him as we walked down a path to the ocean. A little odd since I live about as far from the ocean as possible. The other one was like yours, we were just eating supper in our kitchen.

Now I'm too tired to dream. Heh. :)

june
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Comment from: roni [Member] Email · http://rondidondi.wordpress.com
Dreams in your title caught my attention. I LOVE dreams and use to do alot of dream studing.
I suggest stating a dream journal. Sleep with a pen and paper near by and write down immediately what you recall from you dreams. Every detail, colors, sounds, smells whtever it is. This journal will be fun to look back on later.
I have had a few dreams written in my journal only to find out later that I was actually living it. I knowit sounds crazy, but twice this has happened to me. I was at a particular place and I thought, "man, I was here before!" And a week later for fun I was reading through my journal, and sure enough I had this place described perfectly.
My favorite book on dreams is Conscious Dreaming by Robert Moss. AWESOME book. I've probably read it 5 times and learn something each time.
I'm a strong believer that dreams can guide us in our everyday life.
I could go on forever, dreams just amaze me. I believe you are with Solomon, and Solomon is with you. Enjoy your dreams.
Dreams are the facts from which we must proceed. -C.G. Jung
PermalinkPermalink 10/01/07 @ 21:40
Comment from: Aquagal80 [Member] Email
Dreams are great. What I like about them is that they give you a little insight into your own thoughts. I love that I, my husband, and my mom have all dreamed about our children. I have had a dream about traveling to get our children and I posted about it here. My husband dreamed that our children were home here. My mom just recently told me that she dreamed we were referred twin baby girls. We just received our referral today for one boy and one girl, so she figures she's half right. I'll let her think that.

Now that we have pictures, I'm sure I'll be dreaming a lot more.
PermalinkPermalink 10/03/07 @ 21:40
Comment from: Aquagal80 [Member] Email
Oops, the links didn't post, our blog is http://carpenterschildren.blogspot.com. Our dreams are here:
http://carpenterschildren.blogspot.com/2007/09/dreaming-of-our-children.html
http://carpenterschildren.blogspot.com/2007/08/dreaming-of-ethiopia.html
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