http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/first-meetings-older-child-domestic-adop Blog focused on issues related to transracial adoption, the adoption process, being a transracial/multi racial family and many resources for families adopting transracially. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:45:49 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/first-meetings-older-child-domestic-adop/comment-page-1#comment-2029 John Sun, 16 Sep 2007 04:43:01 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/15/first-meetings-older-child-domestic-adop#comment-2029 I can appreciate the challenges of a very shortened visitation period. My third son (12 at the time), unknown to him, had been selected to become my son. The foster father tried to get him, and it was a huge mess. He finally said "move him, you have 10 days". The worker had no ideas. I said "You show him my video and album tomorrow, and I will be there two days later, we will visit for three days, and I will bring him home and start the adoption. No home visit. We did it, it was hard on my son, but he agreed that going to a new foster home just to do visitation was dumb. Like you said, the adjustment period was longer, but it all worked well. By the way, that was from PA to CA, so a big change. It made a beliver out of me for a normal visitation. John I can appreciate the challenges of a very shortened visitation period. My third son (12 at the time), unknown to him, had been selected to become my son. The foster father tried to get him, and it was a huge mess. He finally said “move him, you have 10 days”. The worker had no ideas. I said “You show him my video and album tomorrow, and I will be there two days later, we will visit for three days, and I will bring him home and start the adoption. No home visit. We did it, it was hard on my son, but he agreed that going to a new foster home just to do visitation was dumb. Like you said, the adjustment period was longer, but it all worked well. By the way, that was from PA to CA, so a big change. It made a beliver out of me for a normal visitation. John

]]> http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/first-meetings-older-child-domestic-adop/comment-page-1#comment-2028 bnajohnston Sat, 15 Sep 2007 22:03:29 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/09/15/first-meetings-older-child-domestic-adop#comment-2028 I just want to thank you for sharing about all your adoption experiences. I have been a "silent reader" for months now and just yesterday had emailed our social worker about a 12 year old girl who has been in foster care since 3. I know everyone would think we were crazy, but I can't help my feelings. We have two boys, 10 and 6 that are "homegrown", a 3 year old daughter, and 5 month old son that were both adopted at birth. We love our colorful family and know we are not done, we definitely need another girl to even things out a bit ;-) Right now we just question which route to go, and your blog has been great to read while we try and make this decision. I just want to thank you for sharing about all your adoption experiences. I have been a “silent reader” for months now and just yesterday had emailed our social worker about a 12 year old girl who has been in foster care since 3. I know everyone would think we were crazy, but I can’t help my feelings. We have two boys, 10 and 6 that are “homegrown”, a 3 year old daughter, and 5 month old son that were both adopted at birth. We love our colorful family and know we are not done, we definitely need another girl to even things out a bit Right now we just question which route to go, and your blog has been great to read while we try and make this decision.

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