I keep thinking that I’ve at least looked at all the major and/or relevant adoption blogs out there. Then, I find one I didn’t know existed. Apparently, everyone else has known about John Raible for years, decades even. I found him about three weeks ago. He wrote a blunt post providing a Crash Course In Transracial Parenting.
Blunt is really a very good word for Dr. Raible. He doesn’t like to be called angry, which I suppose I can understand. He doesn’t pull any punches, though, so I imagine he has a fair share of people who simply don’t like his tone.
Dr. Raible is a transracial adoptee and has been featured in two documentaries about adoption, Struggle for Identity: Issues in Transracial Adoption (1998) and Struggle for Identity: A Conversation 10 Years Later (2007). He is a college professor and a lecturer. His writing will definitely make you feel. I imagine some will feel angry. Some will pooh-pooh what he says. A lot of people, at least the ones who comment on his blog posts, seem to think that he really “gets it” and is trying to help white parents of children of color.
Back to the crash course, I think it’s definitely a worthwhile endeavor.
If you have the opportunity, track down the books at your local library or bookstore (or try Half.com or Paperback Swap). I have to admit, most of them have been on my reading list since 2005. Real Parents, Real Children is on my nightstand. I have started it three times since receiving it in 2004/2005. Maybe the fourth time’s the charm?
The movies present a bit of a problem. It seems to me, if you want someone to watch a movie, you might want to make it easily available, and these movies are not. Adopted is available via Netflix. Otherwise, buying it will cost you about $60. Similarly, Outside Looking In is available via Netflix, at Black TV, or you can purchase it for about $20. First Person Plural doesn’t seem to be available at all, unless you want it for educational use, and then it costs $50 to rent. However, you might be able to catch it on PBS on August 10, 2010. In the Matter of Cha Jung Hee will be shown on PBS on September 14, 2010. Struggle for Identity can be purchased for $100.
Raible provides a short list of blogs. He doesn’t include the links, so I thought I’d do that here for y’all. I admit that I don’t read these blogs on a regular basis. Your mileage may vary.
- Harlow’s Monkey
- Yoon’s Blur
- 안녕습니다 Annyeong Seumnida
- John Raible Online
- The Transracial Korean Adoptee Nexus
- Twice the Rice
If you do choose to do this, even if you just do some of it, I’d love to hear about it.