Comments on: Questions and answers- Age and Attacment in Adoption http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment Blog focused on issues related to transracial adoption, the adoption process, being a transracial/multi racial family and many resources for families adopting transracially. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:45:49 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: wendybarron http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1936 wendybarron Thu, 23 Nov 2006 00:08:16 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1936 This is very true, Erin. We adopted a 9.5 year old and a 4 year old 2 years ago. Our 9.5 year adjusted with relative ease and is one of our easiest children now. Our 4 year old made our first year horrible and still has days where he tries to manipulate every single person in the family. Argh! We also adopted a baby at 7 months old who is probably our most difficult child so far. You can never tell how it will go. I do think personality (among many other factors) is a huge part of how things will go.<br /> <br /> I am glad Belane is doing so well. :-) This is very true, Erin. We adopted a 9.5 year old and a 4 year old 2 years ago. Our 9.5 year adjusted with relative ease and is one of our easiest children now. Our 4 year old made our first year horrible and still has days where he tries to manipulate every single person in the family. Argh! We also adopted a baby at 7 months old who is probably our most difficult child so far. You can never tell how it will go. I do think personality (among many other factors) is a huge part of how things will go.

I am glad Belane is doing so well. :-)

]]> By: patjrsmom http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1935 patjrsmom Wed, 22 Nov 2006 13:53:03 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1935 This is so informative and so timely as we are getting ready to bring our two new Ethiopian kids home--a brother and sister ages 8 mos and 8 years! You touched upon both ends of our spectrum with great insight and thoughtfulness. Thank you. This is so informative and so timely as we are getting ready to bring our two new Ethiopian kids home–a brother and sister ages 8 mos and 8 years! You touched upon both ends of our spectrum with great insight and thoughtfulness. Thank you.

]]> By: Nancy Spoolstra http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1934 Nancy Spoolstra Wed, 22 Nov 2006 05:02:54 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1934 AWESOME summary. I so agree. The child's resiliency and personality and genetics are HUGE factors in determining their trajectory. You are one incredibly blessed mom to have that many and have no serious, ongoing attachment challenges. At least that is what I gleaned from what you wrote? And I have little doubt you do an awesome job of making it as easy as possible for your kiddos to attach. Great post! AWESOME summary. I so agree. The child’s resiliency and personality and genetics are HUGE factors in determining their trajectory. You are one incredibly blessed mom to have that many and have no serious, ongoing attachment challenges. At least that is what I gleaned from what you wrote? And I have little doubt you do an awesome job of making it as easy as possible for your kiddos to attach. Great post!

]]> By: S http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1933 S Wed, 22 Nov 2006 03:53:15 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1933 Your blog is so open-minded - I love how you see the unique qualities in individuals and in different situations. Your blog is so open-minded – I love how you see the unique qualities in individuals and in different situations.

]]> By: tw http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1932 tw Wed, 22 Nov 2006 01:03:14 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1932 Just to second what you've said, Erin, our daughter who was adopted at 21 months has been much more challenging (still) than our daughter who was adopted at almost 8. I definitely think it depends on the kid, and I cringe when I hear (mostly) China adoptive parents talk about Chinese babies not having attachment issues because of their ages. My S begs to differ! ;o) M has no attachment problems at all, but I think that's got much more to do with her than her age at adoption. One of our new babies has about as many risk factors for attachment problems as a kid could have, yet she's more securely attached to us than any (except M) of our other kids were/are in the same amount of time. There's no rhyme or reason! Just to second what you’ve said, Erin, our daughter who was adopted at 21 months has been much more challenging (still) than our daughter who was adopted at almost 8. I definitely think it depends on the kid, and I cringe when I hear (mostly) China adoptive parents talk about Chinese babies not having attachment issues because of their ages. My S begs to differ! ;o) M has no attachment problems at all, but I think that’s got much more to do with her than her age at adoption. One of our new babies has about as many risk factors for attachment problems as a kid could have, yet she’s more securely attached to us than any (except M) of our other kids were/are in the same amount of time. There’s no rhyme or reason!

]]> By: JR http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment/comment-page-1#comment-1931 JR Tue, 21 Nov 2006 17:41:50 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/11/21/questions-and-answers-age-and-attacment#comment-1931 Erin - that's plenty informative! :-) And you make a good point about personality/resiliency being a big factor. Thanks for answering! <br /> <br /> June Erin – that’s plenty informative! :-) And you make a good point about personality/resiliency being a big factor. Thanks for answering!

June

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