Comments on: Taking the leap

By: jask2009

jask2009 — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 03:58:07 +0000

mrscarter618

How do your sons and husband feel about adopting a caucasian child? If you feel like you will be able to give this child all your love and a home and this is what is in your heart then I would say continue on your adoption journey.

By: mrscarter618

mrscarter618 — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 21:14:18 +0000

I am a Black woman who seeking a PhD in I/O Psychology, own a consulting firm and I work with a company full-time. I am married and have two sons, 13 and 9. My husband and I have been in talks about adopting a child, a baby girl. My dilemma on adopting is that I would like to adopt a child that is Caucasian. I am not sure how things will work being that I am a Black woman seeking to adopt a child that is not of my race or culture but I do know that I will be able to give the baby girl a home and the love of a mother.

What are your thoughts on how I should continue?

By: fam_coordinator

fam_coordinator — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 14:57:54 +0000

I am an adoptive mom of three boys. All three have special needs. One is African American. I am Caucasian. I think that for me it (adoption)almost wasn’t a choice. I just knew in the very core of my being that I needed to do this – I had planned to adopt back when I was a young teen. I never considered transracial adoption prior to my son being offered to me by his worker. I think that God or fate or whatever you believe in was at work. I love my boys dearly and as much as I have given them – they have given me infinitely more. I truly believe that I would not be the same person I am today without them. I no longer adopt – I am a single mom and I have maxed out my emotional resources but I now work as a recruiter for foster care and adoption. It is incredibly satisfying (and incredibly frustrating!!) but I wouldn’t trade it for the world! My boys think it is great that “our family” now helps other kids find homes. they ctually fight about accompanying me to events.
One thing I would say, though, is anyone thinking about transracial adoption needs to do a lot of research. Our kids lose so much when they lose their bio families – losing their cultures is often a preventable loss if one does the work of keeping kids connected to culture. My organization – Foster Adoptive Mission – is beginning to do events to keep kids in foster care and adoption connected to their cultures. This year we are doing a cultural festival and inviting the kids to participate, getting musical groups from different cultures to perform and asking restaurants to donate foods representative of different cultures. It should be awesome!!! Anyone who lives in the CT area is invited to come! Check it out – http://www.fosteradoptivemission.org
Everyone have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

By: sarah1972

sarah1972 — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 21:17:25 +0000

I love your blog. I am pursuing the adoption route at the moment but have to say I am a little scared. My husband and I are seriously considering adopting from Ethiopia but I have to say I am very nervous about the whole TB/Latent TB issue.

We have two biological children who are both asthmatic, one has pretty severe asthma. I just feel so scared about taking the risk of bring a sick child into the environment. However, I just can't stop thinking about adopting one of these wonderful children and providing them with an amazing life!

Does anybody have any advice?

By: mistyeyed

mistyeyed — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 15:18:55 +0000

You know I think everyone goes through this process, whether adopting or just having a child. My husband and I are considering having kids, but don’t know when is a good time. Should we wait until we have more money? Should we do it now?

My friends are going through the same process with adopting. They filled out the forms at MyAdoptionForms.com. But, that’s all they’ve done. They don’t know if they should go forward with the process or wait. It’s definitely an issue.