Comments on: The Risks of Domestic Transracial Adoption http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-risks-of-domestic-transracial-adopti Blog focused on issues related to transracial adoption, the adoption process, being a transracial/multi racial family and many resources for families adopting transracially. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:45:49 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Twins http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/the-risks-of-domestic-transracial-adopti/comment-page-1#comment-1953 Twins Tue, 01 May 2007 14:01:12 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/04/29/the-risks-of-domestic-transracial-adopti#comment-1953 On expense in domestic, there are a lot of hidden costs we discovered. Travel being one, many times an expectant mom is not local and you travel there to meet them, and again for the birth. Interstate Compact Agreements take time and you may find yourself living in a hotel for many weeks. We stayed for almost 3 weeks for our processing of paperwork between California and Texas. Then booking last minute flights. Also...domestic adoption has the hidden cost of birthmother finances. You maybe asked to provide food, housing, and clothing for a period of time, and then have the expectant mother change her mind. These are not refunded to you.<br /> <br /> I agree with your comment on you have to be emotionally able to handle these disappointments, and look at thing in a different view. We had two situations fail before success. One had about $2000 in birthmother expenses. We looked at it as "What a better thing to do in life in making sure a women and her children had a roof over their head, and food in their stomachs." In the end our final cost still were cheaper than international adoption. <br /> <br /> I will tell the joy of being at our children's birth, coming home from the hospital with them, and having all the joys surrounding parenthood other than physically being pregnant made it all worth the ups and downs for us. <br /> <br /> On expense in domestic, there are a lot of hidden costs we discovered. Travel being one, many times an expectant mom is not local and you travel there to meet them, and again for the birth. Interstate Compact Agreements take time and you may find yourself living in a hotel for many weeks. We stayed for almost 3 weeks for our processing of paperwork between California and Texas. Then booking last minute flights. Also…domestic adoption has the hidden cost of birthmother finances. You maybe asked to provide food, housing, and clothing for a period of time, and then have the expectant mother change her mind. These are not refunded to you.

I agree with your comment on you have to be emotionally able to handle these disappointments, and look at thing in a different view. We had two situations fail before success. One had about $2000 in birthmother expenses. We looked at it as “What a better thing to do in life in making sure a women and her children had a roof over their head, and food in their stomachs.” In the end our final cost still were cheaper than international adoption.

I will tell the joy of being at our children’s birth, coming home from the hospital with them, and having all the joys surrounding parenthood other than physically being pregnant made it all worth the ups and downs for us.

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