The un-Reluctant Husband

After coming to the realization that Solomon was indeed meant to be with us, I had a lot of conflicting emotions. When I saw new pictures of him from people who traveled to AHOPE or heard little udpates on how he was doing, my heart soared.

And yet at the same time, I was really nervous. For one, I was worried that Josh would not agree that we should adopt him. Deciding to adopt Belane was very emotionally difficult on both of us, and I did not want to go through that, or put Josh through that again. However I did know that there was at least a possibility that he would be open to the idea, because a few months earlier he had knocked my proverbial socks off when he told me that HE knew that we weren’t done adding to our family yet.

I was like, “Excuse me? Quoi? What did you say?” This from the man who had sworn up and down to all that could hear that we were done with a capital “D”? I took his temperature, did some quick checks to ensure that it was indeed my real husband sitting there and not an imposter saying such things, and then asked if I could have it in writing.

He did go on to say that he did not know if the timing would be right any time soon, but reiterated that he felt that we had one more child.

Another aspect of all of this is that there have been many rumors that Ethiopia will be tightening up their restrictions on family size, and that large families like ours may no longer be able to adopt from Ethiopia at some point in the future (possibly near future). We were told that they would likely make exceptions for HIV+ children, but you never know how many children over the imposed limits they will allow.

Josh and I both very much feel drawn to Ethiopia and believe we will be involved with the people there for the rest of our loves in some way or another. Parts of our hearts are there. Neither of us could imagine adopting again and not having it be from Ethiopia.

So, I gathered up the courage to tell Josh how I was feeling about Solomon. I told him it was a “no pressure” thing, and that it was only right for me if it was right for him. I didn’t want to have to convince him.

I had prayed over and over that if it was indeed meant to be for us to adopt Solomon, that Josh would know it. I could tell he was open to the idea right away, and after a couple of weeks of discussing things (and getting new pictures, a medical update and lots of information from recent travelers), Josh pulled the car over on the way home from Belane’s court finalization and said, “I love him. I want him. Let’s get him home. But Erin, this is really, really, IT.”

Continued in my next post.

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