Comments on: When people think lighter is better http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-people-think-lighter-is-better Blog focused on issues related to transracial adoption, the adoption process, being a transracial/multi racial family and many resources for families adopting transracially. Thu, 19 Nov 2009 18:45:49 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Mary Owlhaven http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-people-think-lighter-is-better/comment-page-1#comment-921 Mary Owlhaven Mon, 08 Jan 2007 23:09:51 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/08/when-people-think-lighter-is-better#comment-921 I commented over on my blog about this<br /> <br /> Mary I commented over on my blog about this

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]]> By: Holly http://transracial.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-people-think-lighter-is-better/comment-page-1#comment-920 Holly Mon, 08 Jan 2007 21:38:36 +0000 http://transracial.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/08/when-people-think-lighter-is-better#comment-920 I admitted to not being able to tell the difference between Ethiopians or Zambians or whatever, before I had adopted from Ethiopia. Now, it's easy for me to tell at least other Ethiopians who look like my children. :) And, Zambians look like Zambians. I have no problem saying, yes, he looks very Ethiopian, or yes, he looks very Kazakh (not Chinese, sorry). And, I also have a teen daughter who heard all those types of comments about her older sister - Oh, isn't M so talented, or wow, your sister is sure pretty, or gee, it's nice your sister is so dependable. Nice, huh? Is it any surprise that she has self esteem issues, or that she was quite delighted when her perfect sister starting acting in really not healthy or smart ways? I admitted to not being able to tell the difference between Ethiopians or Zambians or whatever, before I had adopted from Ethiopia. Now, it’s easy for me to tell at least other Ethiopians who look like my children. :) And, Zambians look like Zambians. I have no problem saying, yes, he looks very Ethiopian, or yes, he looks very Kazakh (not Chinese, sorry). And, I also have a teen daughter who heard all those types of comments about her older sister – Oh, isn’t M so talented, or wow, your sister is sure pretty, or gee, it’s nice your sister is so dependable. Nice, huh? Is it any surprise that she has self esteem issues, or that she was quite delighted when her perfect sister starting acting in really not healthy or smart ways?

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